Encouragement for Moms, pt. 3

As a mom there are times when I honestly feel like I’m just not sure if I am doing this parenting thing right! How do I raise my kids in Christ? What does that mean? How do I handle different parenting moments?  Discipline?

There have been moments in my life when the reality that is parenting overwhelms me!  I want to do this SO right. but how do I do that?

My third and final encouragement in this mini series is this, seek after wisdom!

Proverbs 2:1-5 says, “My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; Yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest up thy voice for understanding; If thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as for hid treasures; Then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God.”

I don’t know about you but I need that wisdom and knowledge from God! We only have one shot at raising these kids up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. One.Shot. That adds all kinds of pressure!  We have one opportunity so we had better do it right!

The good news is, Christ says that if we seek after God’s wisdom, we will find it!

What does seeking after wisdom look like?

I’m sure this won’t surprise you when I say it but, getting into God’s Word daily and spending time in prayer are your top two ways to seek for wisdom!  That alone time with God is invaluable! Pouring over God’s Word and spending time in prayer will help to better equip us as Mom’s! We need a lot of wisdom raising these children, so let’s get on our knees and ask God for it!

Another way to seek after wisdom and find encouragement is to stay faithful to church. Pastor’s spend hours studying God’s Word each week and the Lord gives them messages straight from Him for us! How are we going to hear what God has for us if we are not faithful in attending services?  I remember a time when my dad was not living with our family and we had no other vehicle but the one he drove off with.  We lived maybe 1/2 a mile from our church and my mom was determined that she and her children would be faithful to church no matter what.  Even though our lives were full of uncertainty, our home was kind of a mess, she wanted her children in God’s house. So you know what we did? We buckled on our church shoes and we walked all the way to church. It didn’t matter what was going on at home, we would be in church every time the doors were open. I do not look back on those times and resent my mother for making me go to church.  Instead I am thankful she loved me enough to take me, even if it meant we had to walk there.  I think that is a beautiful testimony of my mother.  It was never a guessing game or even a question if we were going to church Sunday and Wednesday.  Rather a, “we are leaving for church at this time and you had better be ready by then.”  Our children need to know that Sunday is different than any other day of the week. It is the day we go to church and everything else can wait.  I want this kind of testimony in my family!

Next, seek out godly council from older, godly mothers who have raised their children well.  This council can come in a few different ways.  One is through actual relationships with other women in your church or that God has brought across your path who love the Lord and all of their children love the Lord as well and are living for Him.  Ask them questions!  Invite her over for coffee and ask for wise council on child rearing.  This is actually a Biblical thing to do. Titus 2:4 states in reference to older women, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,”  Seek godly advice from women who have been where you are and survived to talk about it!   Wisdom from older godly women is priceless!

Another way to seek out godly wisdom is through listening to or attending conferences on the home.  I often turn to Sermon Audio and search out sermons on the home because I oftentimes crave messages like that! {You can find some great messages on the home by any of these speakers listed in my precious post here.} Listening to them helps me keep my focus, realigns my thoughts, gives me insight and helpful tools that I can practically put into use in our home. Also, investing in good books by trusted authors on the home are very beneficial.

Ladies, being a godly mom will take discipline and work on our part but these things are worth our time and energy!  We are investing in the lives of our children and we only have one chance to raise them right! We will never have it all down perfectly, and God never requires that of us. However, we can run to the One who is perfect and knows how we ought to raise our children. Keep asking, seeking, knocking! God wants to help us be the best Mama to our children that we can be!  Let’s draw closer to Him!

 

Many Blessings,

Wendy

 

 

PS: If this has been an encouragement to your heart, please feel free to pass it on!

Grace In Motherhood

Have you ever forgotten about grace?  I have to be honest and say that I have.

The area I most forget about it is in my own parenting.

In the hustle and bustle of child rearing God knows I long to raise the children He has gifted my husband and I with, to love and serve Him as long as they live.  I can easily carry on with my day-to-day routine of parenting though as if it all depends upon me that these children of mine turn out godly.  I sometimes forget that God is in the equation as well!

I cannot minimize the fact that my husband and I do have a tremendous responsibility to raise them up right, however, it isn’t all on our shoulders.  When I forget about God’s grace I begin to feel overwhelmed with pressure and my imperfections stare me down.  How many times have I said to my husband, “We only have one shot at this and I don’t want to mess them up!!”  I see how much I parent imperfectly and love my children imperfectly because of the imperfectness of me!  I fear that because I’m not the perfect mama to them, I will mess them up and cause them to turn from God.

I forget that God’s grace can make up the difference where I lack.

The truth is, I will always parent imperfectly, and God knew that I would when He made me a Mama.  He knew that when He made me a Mama it would cause me to depend even more on Him.  He knew that when He made me Mama it would reveal crystal clear the selfishness rooted deep in my heart, the pride I have, the “perfectionist” in me would struggle over not being the “perfect” parent, and that ultimately He would use Motherhood to sanctify me and draw me ever closer to Himself.  He didn’t call me to be “perfect”, He knew my children would never be able to handle a “perfect” mama.  He knew that He could use my imperfections to point my children to their need of Him as well.  We are all sinners, we are all in need of His grace, not only His saving grace, but His day-in-day-out plenteous grace!

I’m in the trenches of motherhood.  My children are young and I have no idea how they will actually turn out.  I cling to the promises of God, I plead for wisdom beyond my years, I ask for forgiveness of God and my children when I mess up, and I strive to point my children to the One Who is perfect and has enough grace to go around.

Whether we have a “good” day or a “bad” day in parenting, it does not change my standing before God.  No matter how I parent I will not earn more or less favor with God.  Because I have accepted His free gift of salvation, {Ephesians 2:8-9} the cloak of the righteousness of Jesus Christ is over me.  He took all of my imperfections and sins and placed them on Himself when He hung on that cruel rugged cross.  When God the Father looks at me, all He sees is the righteousness of His only begotten Son.  Oh what grace.

So I’m parenting imperfectly, I love my children imperfectly, but God {I LOVE but God moments!} intervenes and offers grace.  He can make up the difference where I seriously lack and He can use the imperfections of my life to point out their need for Him in the lives of my children.  My imperfections are what God can use to draw my children to His saving grace!  I know I will continue to parent imperfectly because I am a sinner, but God!  Motherhood is sanctifying!

In the middle of parenting, don’t forget about grace!  Work hard being a Mama, pray harder for your children, yourself and your husband, do everything you can to point your children to Him, but don’t forget about God’s grace!